We got married on November 30, 2002 which also happens to be Bonifacio Day -- a Philippine holiday to commemorate the birthday of the country's revolutionary hero named Andres Bonifacio. Now there's no excuse not to remember our wedding anniversary!
On hindsight, I just realized we've been a couple for 10 years already...but it felt longer!
Anyway, on our 7th anniversary last year, I made two back-to-back posts about our wedding. So you have to read this first:
7 random things I learned in the first 7 years
So beginning today, and hopefully every year on our anniversary, I thought I would add one lesson to my list.
Note: Whatever I decide to add to the list does not necessarily mean they are the 'ultimate' lessons I've learned that year, okay?
I definitely am not a marriage expert. We all know a perfect marriage in non-existent. But we live and learn. There are just too many to remember and I will try my best to share what most of you can benefit and learn from as well. :-)
Here's #8:
8 Random Things I've Learned In 8 Years of Married Life
8. Accept the things you cannot change
As the Serenity Prayer goes: ...grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference.
This applies to everything we encounter in life. Once you're in a marriage, there will always be things about each other that you wished you could change or improve, or obliterate altogether! And some couples think they can actually change their partners to how they want them to be once they got together. I've learned that as partners, we can both change, wholeheartedly, up to a certain point. Whether on our own or with each other's support. Choose you battles. It's a matter of accepting what you can't change, difficult as it may, that will allow you to move on, learning to compromise and live with those nuances, and grow stronger in marriage.
Prequel:
7 Random Things I Learned From Planning A Wedding
7 Random Things I've Learned In 7 Years of Married Life here
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